To blog or not to blog

This is a photo of me driving Groover's car.  I look a bit stunned but that's because it's at night and the flash is bright.

This photo is of me driving home after a dinner party.

I submit it as evidence that I take my turn as skipper.

Anyway at dinner the other night, my host was recounting a conversation we’d had the day before.

He said – I was wondering if you asked the question to get fodder for your blog… this guy hangs around comedians a lot and sometimes he’s sure they are not making conversation – just testing out material.

I wasn’t fishing I swear but now that I think about that conversation again I think it is blog-worthy.

So the question I asked was “how soon in a relationship do you offer constructive criticism to your lover?”

The answer from the third party to this conversation was not what we expected.

And actually, thinking about that answer… I think you had to be there.

Sorry to wuss out on you.

But I think the question is an interesting one.

Maybe it depends on how much you like the person you are with.

The more you like them, the more you are willing to work on making the relationship work.

Otherwise surely you would just lie back and think of England and then not return their phone calls.

Of course by offering your (let’s not call it criticism) feedback, there is a risk that you might offend the one you like.

My take is you have to get this part of your relationship right or it has no future… right?

But you don’t need to be mean about it.

So my conclusion… be vocal – from the beginning – but with kindness.

And that means if your partner is not telling you what they like or don’t like – maybe you need to worry!

Your thoughts?

4 Replies to “To blog or not to blog”

  1. Haha… no pressure right?! 😉

    And on that note – sod that – I’m not answering!

    Been on leave for what seems like yonks and then again – not!

    Best I get back to blogging too! Hope your regional trips were fruitful mate… anymore coming up soon?


  2. Wow. Good question.

    My husband says “if it’s genuinely constructive criticism, why wait?”

    Questions like this remind me of how few partners I’ve had. I married my high school sweetheart. ’nuff said.

    The advantage in marrying your high school sweetheart, of course, is that you have very few people to compare him/her with. So it might just be that we’ve been having really bad sex for twenty years but neither of us know it.



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